Monday, February 16, 2009


It's Friday, you leave your house early to get a good parking spot at the masjid so that you can have a good seat for the khutbah. You park your car, enter the masjid, and head to the wash room to make wudu. You are greeted by 5 or 6 teenage girls sitting on the floor, huddled together over a cell phone which one sister proudly displays for the group. You hear music coming out of the phone and to your dismay you realize that the girls are in fact listening to none other then hip hop music! You say salaam alaikum to the group in which they barely raise their heads up and one mumbles a meek "salaam." You ask them what they are listening to and they look at you like you have grown a second head and name a song from a popular singer. You politely mention that this is the wash room and that it is inappropriate for them to be sitting there and talking let alone listening to music! They glare at you and return to their cell phone. You quickly make wudu and head toward the prayer room. You walk into the crowded women's room and find a spot to pray your sunnah. When you are finished you grab a quran to read. As you open your Qu'ran the women sitting next to you, as well as behind you engage in humorous conversation, making jokes and laughing loudly, distracting you as you try to read. You casually glance in their direction to catch their eye hoping they will take a hint and lower their voices so that you can read. Instead, they ignore you and continue with their gossip and jokes. Realizing that you will not be able to concentrate you put your Quran away and wait for the khutbah to begin. A few minutes later it starts...... The topic is very enlightening and interesting and as you listen intently you are distracted by the same women talking. You glance in their direction, catch their eye, gesturing to keep quiet. They ignore you and continue chatting... Another woman lets her kids play tag as they run around the womens room, laughing and shouting... Since talking during the khutbah is a sin you decide to move your seat and sit in the front row. You position yourself and within a few minutes the women sitting next to you begin to talk about life, gossip and anything else they can discuss. You look in their direction and they narrow their eyes at you for even looking at them.... Outraged you are ready to scream yet you must keep quiet or your jummah is invalid.... When the khutbah is over, and everyone has prayed, you decide to hang around for awhile to catch up on your reading that you were unable to do earlier. 45 minutes later half of the women are still in the prayer room, chatting and laughing and allowing their kids to run around the room, bumping into people on the way. You decide to leave and read at home. Annoyed, you grab your Quran and leave the prayer room and head to your car......


Desert-Veil said...

AhhhhHHHHHhhhh! Sis, did you take this from my life sis! Seriously, I don't know what is up with some sisters. I've had this happen WAY to much, I don't know if it's the promise of freedom here in the US that drives them to do this stuff or if it's like this everywhere. But it's the IDC attitude when it comes to the masjid. I remember standing up after Jummah and saying something to the sisters that were chatting that it is indeed a sin and they looked at me like I had lost my mind and was just making it up. I've seen women come 1/2 dressed to Jummah, phones ringing in Jummah and answering them, text messaging. YOU NAME IT, It's happening. Where is the Respect for our Lords House? I think that it's something that should be used as a reminder before the Khutbah starts what the rules are and if a certain individual is acting up, then the Imam should be involved especially if it concerns children or teenagers. I mean what would people think if WE did it....Seriously!

*~Ange~* said...

i get this all the time. the kids running around annoy me the most.

Friday Khutbah said...

Salaam Sister,

We used to have similar issue with the brothers, but after handing out a A4 page explaining why everyone need to be silent during the khutbah and educating people about the etiquettes of the Masjid, its now as it should be.

Take a step and put some article together and display it in the mosque for these sister to read, only when they understand the gravity of their action they'll stop.

Also you can actually ask the khatib to make random announcements on this issue which is very effective in addressing this kind is situation.

InshaAllah hope it gets better for you and everyone.

Brother In Islam

M.J. said...

kids seem to just run RAMPANT in every masjid i've ever been to. once a lecturer made a comment to the women's side (which was sectioned off) about it, wish i could remember exactly what i said since it was so funny!

hal786 said...

assalamualaiakum sis
this is like a sign of d.o.j.. right?
sumthin about ppl will start to talk of worldy things in the mosque n ppl will raise their voices at masjids
anyways nice blog, mashallah

check out my blog for nasheeds, too!

Almallena said...

Asalaam walikum

Yeah sis this is quite common, and its sad. See islam has just become a tradition and tradition sometimes is taken not seriously and just a brush over. So these sisters and brothers coming to jummah its just a habit of theirs, not that they are going there to really listen to a khutbah, because if they were they would not be carrying on that way. Actions do speak louder than words, and can show really what your intentions are at times. Ah May Allah guide us.

Candice said...

It's too bad people don't have a bit more respect sometimes. Teenagers are teenagers, and I guess in some ways, it's almost "normal" for them to chat among themselves about things they do regularly (like listen to music) before the service starts. Someone would need to tell them more clearly not to. And kids are kids, too... In some ways, that's what I like about a mosque over a church, that they are a bit more free and the mosque is a space used for everything. But of course their parents should take care of them and make sure they are well behaved and distracted by quiet toys or books during the khutbah. What really bothers me is people chatting during the khutbah because it is so totally obvious to anyone with a mind that this is disrespectful and a complete no-no.

Safiyyah said...

Salaams Sis:

Yes, this is an age-old problem just about everywhere. Since women don't HAVE TO go to Jumuah, I don't anymore. It's not worth the aggravation which probably also negates the spiritual nourishment from praying in a masjid.